http://thelek.com/blog Dating, Food and Lekking in LA Thu, 29 Jul 2010 19:43:46 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en [caption id="attachment_1088" align="alignleft" width="300" caption="Photo by Sterling Davis"][/caption] I've always considered myself one of LA's biggest boosters. I moved here seventeen years ago and, aside from the occasional dalliance with another city, never looked back. I passed the "once you stay five years you never go back" threshold ... http://thelek.com/blog/events-in-la/la-inspiration/ I get many letters like this from readers (both male and female): "I met this guy, and he took me to dinner, and it was really romantic, but he did/didn't try to kiss me, then he called/didn't call back, then he asked/didn't ask me out again, and what does it all ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/the-tao-of-dating-5-principles-to-overcome-any-challenge-in-your-love-life/ One question arises whenever I pronounce the distinctly un-pithy title of my book for women - ‘The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Embracing Your Inner Goddess and Finding the Fulfillment You Deserve‘: “What qualifies you to write this book?” Well, nothing really.  See, I actually don’t want you to ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/how-to-be-a-modern-goddess-2/ This reader brings up a great question: Hi! Alex, I have been enjoying your autoresponder updates.  Thank you!  I am grateful that my friend told me about you! My question is: When a man uses vulgar language (mainly the “f” word) around me (and we are just getting to know one another), how do ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/dating-the-easy-way-to-make-difficult-requests/ Last night, I was at a business networking mixer here in Los Angeles. As the event winded down, I was talking to these two lovely young ladies — let’s call them Ashley and Sarah — who seemed really preoccupied about a message Ashley was composing on her Blackberry. They kept ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/dating-what%e2%80%99s-your-compass-how-to-get-rid-of-toxic-guys-or-girls/ This has got to be one of the most insightful articles on female sexuality I’ve ever read. It discusses some new scientific findings about female arousal with profound implications — and some very controversial interpretations. Every man should read this to understand better the inner workings of the female psyche; ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/what-do-women-want-the-enigma-of-female-sexuality/ Last Sunday was Mother’s Day, which reminded me of the Ten Commandments. That’s because there’s only one measly commandment telling you what to do: ‘honor thy father and thy mother.’ The remaining nine are a relentless barrage of ‘thou shalt nots’, telling you what not to do. So if you were to ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/the-ten-commandments-of-modern-dating/ On Happiness I live in Los Angeles, which may well be ground zero for spiritual movements in the United States. Many such groups got their start here, and the diversity of faiths and movements is impressive—from old to new, sincere to shady, truly elevating to downright toxic. People engage in all manner ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/how-to-find-happiness-in-four-not-so-easy-steps/ [caption id="" align="alignleft" width="211" caption=" "][/caption] We all want to present ourselves in the best possible light, and there always comes that moment when filling out a dating profile where you sorta, kinda, wanna fudge the truth a little bit.  "Well, I mean to work out three times a week, ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/the-games-people-play-aka-tell-me-lies-tell-me-sweet-little-lies/ INDULGE. dineLA!   For two weeks only, top restaurants all over Los Angeles offer sumptuous prix fixe menus at even tastier prices.   dineLA Restaurant Week is an annual event established to introduce diners to the vast array of restaurants in neighborhoods throughout LA County. Participating restaurants will opt into one of three dining ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/test-2/