http://thelek.com/blog Dating, Food and Lekking in LA Thu, 29 Jul 2010 19:43:46 +0000 http://backend.userland.com/rss092 en Recently, on a trip to New York City for a conference, things didn't turn out quite as expected. Knowing that my Big Apple friends are busy bees, I wrote them all an email a month before getting there, saying in essence, "I'm coming, would love to see you, prepare the city ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/how-to-feel-good-about-disappointing-friends/ I get many letters like this from readers (both male and female): "I met this guy, and he took me to dinner, and it was really romantic, but he did/didn't try to kiss me, then he called/didn't call back, then he asked/didn't ask me out again, and what does it all ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/the-tao-of-dating-5-principles-to-overcome-any-challenge-in-your-love-life/ First of all, I’d like to say a happy Persian New Year to everyone out there.  The vernal equinox marks the first day of spring as well as the beginning of the Persian calendar.  It’s a time of renewal, rebirth and remembrance, and an excellent excuse to party, which I ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/conversation-tips-for-%e2%80%99sexy-nerdy-girls%e2%80%99/ One question arises whenever I pronounce the distinctly un-pithy title of my book for women - ‘The Tao of Dating: The Smart Woman’s Guide to Embracing Your Inner Goddess and Finding the Fulfillment You Deserve‘: “What qualifies you to write this book?” Well, nothing really.  See, I actually don’t want you to ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/how-to-be-a-modern-goddess-2/ Here’s a great letter I got recently: I have a question about a guy.  I think you stated I get one free consult question?? I was introduced to a great guy who is the best friend of my best friend’s husband so there is a lot of history there ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/dating-for-women-how-to-get-out-of-your-own-way/ This reader brings up a great question: Hi! Alex, I have been enjoying your autoresponder updates.  Thank you!  I am grateful that my friend told me about you! My question is: When a man uses vulgar language (mainly the “f” word) around me (and we are just getting to know one another), how do ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/dating-the-easy-way-to-make-difficult-requests/ Last weekend I had the pleasure of attending a talk by Marianne Williamson on ‘Divine Partnership’ here in Los Angeles. In it, she elaborated on many useful ideas from A Course in Miracles applicable to dating and relationships. For those of you who are not familiar with her work yet, she ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/marianne-williamson-on-divine-partnership/ Last night, I was at a business networking mixer here in Los Angeles. As the event winded down, I was talking to these two lovely young ladies — let’s call them Ashley and Sarah — who seemed really preoccupied about a message Ashley was composing on her Blackberry. They kept ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/dating-what%e2%80%99s-your-compass-how-to-get-rid-of-toxic-guys-or-girls/ This has got to be one of the most insightful articles on female sexuality I’ve ever read. It discusses some new scientific findings about female arousal with profound implications — and some very controversial interpretations. Every man should read this to understand better the inner workings of the female psyche; ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/what-do-women-want-the-enigma-of-female-sexuality/ Last Sunday was Mother’s Day, which reminded me of the Ten Commandments. That’s because there’s only one measly commandment telling you what to do: ‘honor thy father and thy mother.’ The remaining nine are a relentless barrage of ‘thou shalt nots’, telling you what not to do. So if you were to ... http://thelek.com/blog/dating-in-la/the-ten-commandments-of-modern-dating/