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Hi Dr. Alex! I’ve been forwarded many of your emails from a friend and I enjoy reading them. Now I have my own questions…
Here goes nothing! So, I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a year now. He works in the same building as I do that’s how we met. He’s 15 years [...]
Here’s a great letter I got recently:
I have a question about a guy. I think you stated I get one free consult question?? I was introduced to a great guy who is the best friend of my best friend’s husband so there is a lot of history there that I knew about before [...]
This reader brings up a great question:
Hi! Alex,
I have been enjoying your autoresponder updates. Thank you! I am grateful that my friend told me about you!
My question is:
When a man uses vulgar language (mainly the “f” word) around me (and we are just getting to know one another), how do I let him know that [...]
Last weekend I had the pleasure of attending a talk by Marianne Williamson on ‘Divine Partnership’ here in Los Angeles. In it, she elaborated on many useful ideas from A Course in Miracles applicable to dating and relationships.
For those of you who are not familiar with her work yet, she possesses one of the most [...]
Last night, I was at a business networking mixer here in Los Angeles. As the event winded down, I was talking to these two lovely young ladies — let’s call them Ashley and Sarah — who seemed really preoccupied about a message Ashley was composing on her Blackberry.
They kept on going back and forth, [...]
This has got to be one of the most insightful articles on female sexuality I’ve ever read. It discusses some new scientific findings about female arousal with profound implications — and some very controversial interpretations.
I’ve been on the receiving end of enough stories from men and women to notice some consistent patterns of self-sabotage in the mating dance. The good news is that once you know about them, these behaviors are entirely avoidable. Call them the Dating Decalogue, the Ten Commandments of Modern Mating or just common sense — here they are:
Faced with all these choices, spirituality can be a daunting concept. What does it really mean to be spiritual? A hundred people will respond a hundred different ways, so I won’t pretend to have the universal answer. What I can tell you is what spirituality means to me. It comes down to four simple principles:
Some of you, my astute readers, already noticed that the dating challenges enumerated in the last article - focusing on careers instead of relationships, expecting to be loved for the wrong reasons, not acting like a sexual being, self-sabotaging and ego identity - are not just specific to smart people. They’re specific to people. Smart, successful folks simply get a little extra wallop of them.
Well, that’s nice, you say. Now what are we going to do about it, doc?
So glad you asked. Let’s take them one-by-one:
I have a mini-confession to make: I wrote the Tao of Dating books specifically for smart folks. The writing of the books was precipitated by the endemic dating woes on the Harvard campus, as I observed them as an advisor and earlier, indulged in them as a student.
Those kids graduate and pretty much continue to [...]
